Harelipfrog

Monday, May 29, 2006

How? Why?

I do not understand how or why someone would do something like this ...

My younger brother-in-law's girlfriend had been living with my MIL for the last several months sincer her step-father kicked her out of the house after her mother died.

She has been treated like a member of the family.

We have all done our best to make her feel welcome.

We are not a rich family and did ask her to find a job and help support herself, but never treated her in an unkind manner.

She was pregnant and did not tell anyone. Not until today when she went into labor.

She did not tell anyone she missed her period. She did not see a doctor about any pre-natal care. She never indicated that anything was wrong. She had gained weight, but she had been out of work for several months and had not done much during that period of time, so it was not odd.

She now has a very pissed off family to deal with. Medical bills (and since she did not have any pre-natal care, additional testing, and additional expense), baby stuff and clothing to be purchased, and a car seat to be purchased before Wednesday.

A boyfriend who feels betrayed because she did not tell him.

A family who feel betrayed because she did not tell us.

She has lived with us as a family long enough to know that we would not throw her out because she got pregnant.

I am at my wits end because I can't understand why she did this. Now, as a result of her duplicity, there is a great deal of doubt and mistrust regarding her motives for doing this.

I realize I sound like I am dumping on her, and right now I am. I will probably be more forgiving tomorrow, but tonight I just cant understand how she could do this to us.

Sunday, May 14, 2006

Tremors

Honestly, I dont like to talk about this. In fact I have snapped at my sisters on more than one occasion when they pointed out just how bad I was on any particular day. Sorry.

Anyone who has spent much time with me (particularly in the last couple of years) will probably have observed that my hands will sometimes shake. My oldest sister once observed that she expected me to wear the hot chocolate I was trying to drink because my hands were shaking so bad. I have started taking steps to minimize the appearance of my shakes, I drink with a straw or will hold the rim of a cup in my teeth while drinking to minimize their appearance (they are currently most apparent when I am drinking out of a glass).

It's embarrassing. It also gets worse when I get upset, which results in vicious cycle.

I start to shake - I get upset about it - I shake more

My doctor finally referred me to a neurologist for a definitive diagnosis. Good News - I do not have Parkinsons - Bad News - I do have what is called an "Essential Tremor".

We are now pursuing treatment options. But it's something I will have deal with for the rest of my life.

Sorry, feeling sorry for myself.

Saturday, May 13, 2006

Things I Like:/Things I don't like

THINGS I LIKE

Flavors - I love good food
Books - The last time I moved I had over thirty boxes of books
Textures - One of the things I like about crochet is selecting the yarn
Music - I like all types of music
Color - pure clear tones
Quiet Time - everyone needs some time to contemplate where they are and where they are going - or just some time to set the day aside

THINGS I DISLIKE

Chewing Gum - After 15 years on the phones as a customer service rep, and listenng to the mastication of various foods, I can safely say that nothing sounds as bad as chewing gum
Bad Customer Service - I have no patience for poor service - If you are having a problem, that is one thing; but treat me like I have a brain and the good sense to use it and not like some drooling idiot who couldn't find his own tush with both hands and a street map
People who yell all the time - you know who I am talking about, they have no volume control
People who feel they must be part of my conversation - Did I ask you about it

I know I sound bitchy - sorry

Monday, May 01, 2006

Apartment

Well ... it looks like our current rentor will not be moving out after all.

Sorry